Sunday, November 8, 2009

Four Letter Words

Our Saturday paper had an article entitled, "Doggone it, it's hard to be a non-swearing parent," written by Felix Carroll with the Albany Times Union. This saint and his wife have actually managed to put their swearing on hold around their kids. They admit to using certain language with each other, often in the form of name-calling, but not in front of the kids. I was amazed. My friend Beth at Books etc. has admitted she swears like a sailor and has no intention of stopping. (Love that!) I have tried myself but with little success. Riley automatically knows what words he can or can't say. He was a late talker, well into the age of two, but once he started he had amassed a large and sophisticated vocabulary. In the early years I often fretted over the very real possibility his first word would be the "s" word in front of Grandma (who uses it rather frequently herself I'll add). I am guilty of using not only the "s" word, but the "f" word as well as "g-d". But I don't stop there. I also am known to string them together in very quick sequence such as "g-d" "b" "m-f" and other variations thereof. Tsk, tsk. I hope my son doesn't start swearing like me at any time in his life. Usually I find it inelegant and coarse when someone else is doing it. Not the odd word, but the ones at high volume or the strung together ones. I guess it's time to clean up my act. At least in front of the kids.

4 comments:

oreneta said...

I am a sailor, and I also swear like one, though when my kids were little I just stopped around them, it turned off. Seems that same magic switch has turned on again. Somewhere internally I figure they are old enough. My usual line is that they can swear when they are old enough to drive.....

sherry ♥ lee said...

Being mindful of how we speak is never a bad thing. I don't think any of us is perfect enough that we can say we've never uttered a four letter word or some vulgar. But being mindful of how we sound and what we are trying to convey? That's always a positive.

Trish said...

Kim, don't even think of cleaning up your act; life is way morecolorful with a few curses. I learned swearing from my own mother in Ireland who had mastered it to eloquence. I've blogged before about how intensely therapeutic I find swearing. Kids are smart and know when it's socially not okay. My twins ar,* given a little leeway at home with cursing but are perfect gentlemen in public. Now, go have an effin brillliant day b****)

Christie said...

It's tough. We're now trying to use "Ah nuts!" and "Nuckin' futs." when things require stronger language.